Give me coffee to change the things I can, vodka to accept the things I can’t and friends who are sober enough to help me know the difference.
If every straight person honestly answered this question, we’d wipe out homophobia tomorrow.
"The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn." This statement was first uttered by American feminist, journalist, and social activist, Gloria Steinem in a commencement speech she gave at Vassar College in 1970. Steinem wasn’t telling college graduates at their commencement that the knowledge they had accumulated in the last four years needed to be unlearned. She wasn’t talking about unlearning how to write a paper, solve an equation, or compose a resume. She didn’t want her audience to unlearn knowledge they had worked hard to learn and paid money to gain. These are not the pieces of knowledge to which Steinem was referring. Rather, she was talking about unlearning less consciously acquired customs, attitudes, and assumptions that perpetuate inequality and injustice. One important example of these can be seen in society’s treatment of sexual violence.
While it is generally agreed upon that sexually violent crimes are atrocious transgressions that merit legal repercussions for the attacker, we as a society tend to struggle with identifying the ways in which we unknowingly endorse it. We all know about rape and sexual assault; we’ve all heard the statistics. However, when we are confronted with sexual violence that is discretely immersed within our culture in television shows and song lyrics, we too often treat it as a normal part of everyday life. In some cases, this topic even serves as the subject of jokes, such as asking if it is rape or shoplifting when someone forces sex on a prostitute. Victim-blaming (“She was wearing what? She was drinking? Oh, she was asking for it!”) also remains widespread. But why? These are all manifestations of a phenomenon that has been termed “rape culture.” Rape culture can be defined as the cultural trend in which sexual violence is tolerated and condoned through socialization and popular gender discourses, creating an environment in which covert, socially sanctioned mechanisms that endorse rape are commonplace. One consequence of this social issue is that instead of focusing on sexual violence as the main concern, activist efforts must also be geared toward dismantling the culture that condones these acts.
"If you want you and your wife to share a last name, that’s great, but you should consider taking her name as seriously as she considers taking yours. Otherwise, we have a problem."
"But one thing’s for sure: it’s going to take collective sacrifice to bring about a world in which women’s humanity is so taken-for-granted that no individual woman’s choices can undermine it. To get there, we’re going to need to acknowledge the power of the system, recognize each other as conscious actors, and have empathy for the difficult choices we all make as we try to navigate a difficult world.”
How the tumblr community celebrates the coming of fall with the same exhilarated reverence that I do.